We’ve talked about connecting with people, asking intentional questions, and sharing the Gospel. One thing that will help with all these is listening. Listen to the stories and the details and the joys and the sorrows. Listening will help you truly get to know that person. It also shows you care and allows you to better show the love of Christ with them.

Active Listening
Don’t just listen, though. Try actively listening. When I trained in the seminary for pastoral counseling, they taught us this is one of the most important and effective things you can do for someone.

Active listening means you not only listen, but you face the person, maintain comfortable eye-contact (no messing with devices during the conversation), and periodically respond in acknowledgment (“right”, “uh huh”, nodding, etc.). This encourages them to share and shows you are listening and care.

After the person shares something, briefly repeat it back to them in your own words. This shows that you listened and understood and allows them to correct you if you misunderstood something. It also makes you focus on what they are saying while they speak instead of on what you want to say in response.

You would be amazed how much active listening can help show people they matter, comfort them during hardships, and deepen relationships. Honestly, this isn’t just something to do when on mission. You can do this with everyone all the time, especially your close friends, spouse, and children.

Today: Practice actively listening in your conversations and continue tomorrow…and the day after…